You teach others how you want to be treated by the amount you will tolerate. You also role model to others by your actions rather than words. Children especially pick up on this! Saying no to requests is not impolite but your right although at times difficult. We each have certain situations we find more challenging to say no to than others. Being assertive isn't about aggression. It's about listening with respect and compassion to yourself and others whilst maintaining your own boundaries. It's about balance and being aware of your limits. One of my main indicators in a situation I need to say yes or no to is how I feel in my body; am I tense, how does my gut feel? Over the top enthusiasm can also be an indicator that you may need to stand back and take time to decide! We can take too many things on in good faith then wish we hadn't and try to back out.Over commitment isn't a healthy path in the long-term. If you're being pushed for an answer especially by sales people you are more than likely being bullied. Do you really want to say yes to that?
Ankhra Laan-Ra. Glasgow based Well-being and Fitness Coach.