Home is where the heart is so it is said. What do we mean by home however? Is it the trappings of physical life, our goods the things we accumulate along the way from our travels through life? We all need stability in life and somewhere to just be that is safe for us to let go and completely be ourselves. We all need some form of anchor to come back to as human beings even if we are restless and like to travel. I've always liked to travel and I remember a conversation in a cafe in Cyprus on home. What was said is travel is great and it's fun to explore but you take back what you learn and experience to your life at home. This nourishes and revitalizes us and those around. Simplistic maybe but it holds true for me. If we don't experience different things in life even if it's just ringing the changes in our home environment ,we get stale and this impacts on our lives and those of others. We start to expect all our needs to be met by the small group of people around us instead of gaining a wider perspective on life. Home is also within us, our soul self connected as it is to a greater power and purpose. We are never disconnected from this home source even if we sometimes feel fragmented. This in itself is comforting. Having somewhere to come back to within that is eternal and also a home in our physical reality keeps us grounded and focused. We can then face life challenges with more perspective and calm. If we are well grounded in our internal and external homes we can also make more balanced decisions. This helps us move with flow of life rather than fight it. It gives us more peace.
My grandmother had what was called a hand span waistline of 20 inches. That was the fashion then. She was healthy and lived to be 98 years of age.
As a child it never occurred to me to comment on anybody's size. It was considered rude in fact. Their size didn't define them but their actions did.
In our modern society there seems to be an obsession with size. You never seem to be good enough or reach what is basically an illusion of what the media see as perfection. The result is often a poor body image and low self-esteem. Whatever size you are isn't really the issue. Good health matters most. Your happiness too is important.The basics of eating a real food rather than a processed food diet, exercise, building high self-esteem and confidence is a more balanced way no matter what your size. If you are not happy with your shape and size and it's causing health problems then perhaps you need to consider a change. This really is up to you! No one can do it for you. Your body type will dictate to a certain extent your basic shape. A pear will always be a pear but can be well toned with exercise. You can make the best of how you are rather than long for impossible airbrushed illusions! Then you will find once you accept that changes happen naturally. When you change you may find other people are not so supportive especially if you achieve what they want to do but don't! Your health and happiness are more important than opinions however.
Ankhra Laan-Ra. Glasgow based Well-being and Fitness Coach.